while watching 'pretty maids'…and thats when I knew
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mjd_subs2 — 10 years ago(November 09, 2015 12:18 AM)
are you that naive? Because human beings speculate about things. Nobody said it was right or wrong, but a reality. Especially with sex, since homophobia is alive and rampant as it ever was; we just like to think it's not. It's not about being being "CIVILIZED" (unless harmful intent is involved))
Nope. I'm not nave. Two questions for you:- Can you give me ANY example of people "speculating" on what is going on with people they don't know, have never met and aren't associated with that is NOT harmful?
- Can you provide ANY example of people "speculating" on what is going on with people they DO know, have met and are associated with that is NOT harmful?
- Get busy living, or get busy dying. Andy (The Shawshank Redemption)
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mjd_subs2 — 10 years ago(November 09, 2015 02:31 AM)
I don't ask questions with the preconceived idea of what the respondent SHOULD say so there is nothing, in particular, I wanted to hear.
My point still stands and that "speculating" about other people's private lives is, more often than not, harmful, pointless and mean-spirited. You can rationalize that however you need to. It doesn't change the fact that "speculating" has harmed quite a few people since the dawn of mankind.- Get busy living, or get busy dying. Andy (The Shawshank Redemption)
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mjd_subs2 — 10 years ago(November 09, 2015 12:29 PM)
Have you NEVER met
*someone who hides/lies about their sexual orientation for fear of rejection, ridicule, termination or even bodily harm?
*someone that has "figuratively" been stoned in Central Square on the idea that she has been with a man not her husband?
*someone that hides their crucifix or Star of David for fear of being unfairly judged?
*someone that hides her/his bruises and lies about any signs of physical abuse because being honest and asking for help will usually lead to rejection?
*someone that hides the fact that she has been sexual molested or assaulted because rape victims are the only victims of crimes that have to prove they did nothing to CAUSE it. (Go visit Bill Cosby's page and look at all the apologists. That many women would NOT risk their future ability to work in Hollywood over a lie. And, if X number of women are basically saying the same thing and still getting raked over the coals, what do you think happens when a predator isn't world famous, filthy rich and preys on even younger women (and men)?
If you don't see or understand why "speculating" about someone else's life can be very harmful, then it might help for you to take some psychology classes, volunteer on a crisis line, help run a suicide survivor support group or otherwise engage with society in a way to come to understand that "speculating" is anything but harmless chit-chat.- Get busy living, or get busy dying. Andy (The Shawshank Redemption)