Ginger and Lew Ayres?
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mcdemuth — 9 years ago(September 05, 2016 11:34 AM)
Her bio said
Her bio from where?
I thought she was married to him.
Ginger WAS married to Lew Ayers.
only one other guy.
Ginger was married FIVE times.- Jack Culpepper
- Lew Ayres
- Jack Briggs
- Jacques Bergerac
- William Marshall
She really adored Lew Ayres, and tried hard to maintain the marriage. She said she would have done anything for him. But unfortunately, it just could not last. It was painful for her to divorce Lew Ayers. She regretted the divorce the rest of her life.
Ginger was also engaged for a while to a Howard Hughes.
I understand that Ginger once said this: "
I yearned for a long, happy marriage with one person.
"
Sadly, Ginger was not fortunate when it came to her love life.
However, she had many close friends throughout her whole life, including Cary Grant, and James Stewart. James Stewart gave Ginger his Pilot's Wings. (You don't do that with someone who you don't really care for.)
If you get a chance, you should pick up a copy of her AutoBiography: "
Ginger, My Story
", and give it a read. It's a very good book.
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mcdemuth — 9 years ago(October 18, 2016 01:07 PM)
In all fairness to Jack Briggs
Ginger said "after the war" he was a different man and was drinking a lot.
I think neither of them were properly communicating with each other, and that is why the marriage failed.
Back then, war was looked upon by most people with romanticism and glory "
You either died or you came back a hero
" It wasn't until soldiers went to the "front lines" that they even learned that "War Is Hell". And it wasn't until the Korean War or the Vietnam War, that the general population started to learn what war was really like.
I doubt that Ginger or Jack could have been able to watch "Saving Private Ryan" without either leaving the theater or puking their guts out.
I've seen a Pearl Harbor documentary where a survivor talked about trying to save someone from the harbor whose "skin all came off his arms" in his hands. That extremely horrible to think abouteven TODAY! NO ONE talked about, or imagined, such things during WWII
I think Jack tried to forget his war experiences by drinking, and not wanting to talk about it. But you can't competely forget. A sound..238. a smell suddenly you remember. Or maybe he had nightmares. Many veterans do.
Most men also didn't usually open up to their wives about such things like they do know. It just wasn't done then.
I think Jack either wouldn't tell Ginger what was wrong, or couldn't explain it so she could understand
Then, Ginger, who as we all know, lived a life of fantasy, romance, puppy dogs & Ice Cream Sodas probably could not image anything but what movies at the time, and government propaganda had told her that war was like. I know she d16d0eeply loved him, and probably tried hard to communicate with him But I suspect she never asked the right questions, or the tough ones, or just couldn't understand what Jack was trying to tell her.
I think in the end they both just couldn't relate to each other like they did before.
This is the only one of Ginger's Marriages which I can possibly understand why, that failed, and most of it is all speculation anyway
There are some unverified "rumors" going around as to why some of her others failed But, I have trouble believing those
Ginger was a amazing beautiful lady, who was kind, loving, funny, talented, smart, ETC. So many people wanted to date and marry her. Everyone else who did marry her, should have known what to have expected by marrying "Miss Ginger Rogers".
I won't go into some of the shortcomings Ginger mentioned about her other husbands, but I just can't imagine why they didn't try harder to make the marriages "work" with her.
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jwhuey67 — 9 years ago(October 18, 2016 10:15 PM)
well, there's definitely a different situation for each of the five and Briggs' situation was by far the most 'understandable' and he was also the closest to an 'average Joe' of the bunch, although a 'bit actor' I think it was probably a tough thing for him to 'relate' to her in post-war and vice-versa It was interesting that Ginger was in the film "I'll Be Seeing You", which dealt with PTSD, albeit at a level that film goers in the 40s could handle, and really just scratched the surface (it's quite a stretch from there to Private Ryan, for sure).
But as for the other ones eh, I've hashed out all of them over on Gingerology at one time or another, and all had their issues. Now, was Ginger totally 'un-blameable'? Well, of course I like to think so but in reality, I'm sure there were moments she was quite confident in her ways which may have been too much for the average man of the era to handle somehow, I just don't think I would have minded her forwardness