Ok for me I consider myself a nice, friendly, and don't mind meeting people. I guess I'm different from other black wome
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blaque108 — 9 years ago(December 08, 2016 02:10 AM)
Ok for me I consider myself a nice, friendly, and don't mind meeting people. I guess I'm different from other black women because I'm not loud, ghetto, keeping up mess, gossipy, and etc. Anyways, I hate when I'm at work and my co workers they always telling me "you are too quiet", "we gonna have to change you and make you loud", and etc.
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Ultraviolenxe — 9 years ago(December 08, 2016 02:21 AM)
I guess I'm different from other black women because I'm not loud, ghetto, keeping up mess, gossipy, and etc.
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ItsLukeyBitch — 9 years ago(December 08, 2016 10:47 AM)
Yes,lots of people tried to make me straight, but that's cause they don't have neurons enough to know that being Bi is the most natural thing ever, most animals are bi and they don't f-cking choose it cause they can't so why they think human beings choose it?
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lazari288 — 9 years ago(December 08, 2016 04:04 AM)
I have social anxiety and people have told me that I'm too quiet my entire life. I don't think they're trying to change me, but it can be frustrating. People seem to think I can just flip a switch and be more social. I always feel uncomfortable around talkative people because they're the ones who usually point it out.
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SelenaQP — 9 years ago(December 08, 2016 02:10 AM)
Anyways, I hate when I'm at work and my co workers they always telling me "you are too quiet", "we gonna have to change you and make you loud", and etc.
I have social anxiety and people have told me that I'm too quiet my entire life. I don't think they're trying to change me, but it can be frustrating. People seem to think I can just flip a switch and be more social. I always feel uncomfortable around talkative people because they're the ones who usually point it out.
Yeah, I suffered a lot of that during middle and high school. It was definitely one of the major reasons why I was growing into deep depression and insecurity. They just couldn't accept it. They made me felt even more awkward than how I was already feeling. I definitely know the feeling of you guys. I always feel uncomfortable around talkative people too. They would always ask "Are you like this at home?" , "Are you always like this?", or if they haven't seen me in a long time "Are you still quiet?". It's very annoying. That's why I don't care to be around people at all. It's a much more peaceful, happier event for me.
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blaque108 — 9 years ago(December 08, 2016 08:20 PM)
Sometimes I have thought about flipping the switch and becoming loud and then I bet they would be ready to have me back to quiet again. I have been around loud people and I just want to put a muzzle over their mouth so they can't talk no more.
When I think back to my school days its amazing how I was able to meet friends to hang out with and no one called me quiet the people I became friends with in my school years liked me for me and since I've been out of school its been a struggle trying to keep friends because I guess I'm to quiet for them.I just don't people sometimes. -
SelenaQP — 9 years ago(December 08, 2016 08:58 PM)
When I think back to my school days its amazing how I was able to meet friends to hang out with and no one called me quiet the people I became friends with in my school years liked me for me and since I've been out of school its been a struggl5b4e trying to keep friends because I guess I'm to quiet for them.I just don't people sometimes.
Yeah, I don't remember getting it that much in elementary school. Only for a few instances. I had friends that I would hang out. My teachers were used to me so they never made a big deal about it. It was only when I started my junior high years at a different school, I started getting that more and more from students and the teachers alike. There was one teacher who wrote in my report card back in 7th grade that I needed to be more outgoing.
Even when I was trying to apply to nursing school back in college, there was this teacher that made a comment how I was "too quiet" in one of my recommendations/evaluation forms.
All my life, people always made it seems like I have some kind of personality disorder that needed to be fixed. They just never really get it. These days I try to avoid social gatherings as humanely possible. I just don't care to be around people. I'd rather be around animals, MUCH more intriguing. They don't talk back to you and they just accept you for who you are. They don't care what you look like or what you are.
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blaque108 — 9 years ago(December 08, 2016 10:50 PM)
Ok I can see in school teachers making comments on your report card about how you are in class and involvement in the classroom, but in college.that is crazy what should they care if your quiet or not?
I know what you mean Lucy it is sad that people can't except us quiet folks for us and they could be missing out on great friendship but nope they would rather be with loud talkative folks. To come to think of most of my friends in school was white, Asian, I had a few mixed or Hispanic friends, and I only had about 1 or 2 black best friends in high school I can get along mostly with whites, Asians (maybe Asians) since they aren't loud people. I like the idea of a pet as a friend you right Lucy they never let you downlol I really want to get me a puppy. -
lazari288 — 9 years ago(December 09, 2016 03:44 AM)
I was a happy kid in elementary school. Even though I was a bit on the shy side, I didn't have any problems making friends during those years. My social anxiety didn't start to develop until 5th grade. I didn't have any classes with my friends and we began to drift apart. Then one day, they all decided to sit at a different lunch table and ignore me at recess. This ruined my self-esteem and caused me to shut down socially. I did manage to make other friends in 6th and 7th grade, but they took advantage of me and talked behind my back. As a result, I always assume the worst of people. I feel like if I open up to someone, they'll inevitably betray my trust.
I was so quiet in school that kids would make fun of me whenever I spoke. They'd say things like "he speaks!" and "three words that must be a record!" That just discouraged me from talking. Teachers would often tell me that I needed to participate in class more. I dreaded presentations because I had difficulty speaking loudly and teachers would tell me to speak up. In 8th grade, I was voted "Most Quiet Boy" and it was announced at an assembly in front of the entire school. All of the other titles were flattering things like Smartest, Best Dressed, etc. It was embarrassing to be singled out like that.
I think a lot of people perceive me as being rude because I'm so quiet. I wear headphones when I go grocery shopping to keep people from talking to me. Social gatherings are a nightmare. I can't initiate conversations and I feel like I never have anything interesting to say. It amazes me how some people can go on and on about the most trivial things. I'll admit I'm a bit jealous of people who are confident in social situations. -
SelenaQP — 9 years ago(December 09, 2016 12:17 PM)
I was a happy kid in elementary school. Even though I was a bit on the shy side, I didn't have any problems making friends during those years. My social anxiety didn't start to develop until 5th grade. I didn't have any classes with my friends and we began to drift apart.
Same here. I was a very happy soul too. After my best friend and our other friend had left the school after 3rd grade, it would just be me and this other girl my best friend and I were also friends with. Well, 4th grade was okay, but I did had people warning me about this girl, tho. And I would simply shrugged it off. It wasn't until 5th grade, the girl started to act weird and became distant towards me. She totally ditched to be friends with someone else. I suddenly found myself all alone and felt like a complete loser. I realized that my friendship with this girl was NOTHING like my best friend. I started having social anxiety too. My teacher in 5th grade was very nice, but I don't have very particular fond memories of that grade. 6th grade was much worse and was the final straw for me. I never became attached with anyone else since my best friend, not because I have trusting issues, but because my personality had changed from then on. I just don't feel the need to have any sort of attachments with people. I'd just rather keep to myself like what I've been doing since 5th grade.
I was so quiet in school that kids would make fun of me whenever I spoke. They'd say things like "he speaks!" and "three words that must be a record!" That just discouraged me from talking. Teachers would often tell me that I needed to participate in class more. I dreaded presentations because I had difficulty speaking loudly and teachers would tell me to speak up. In 8th grade, I was voted "Most Quiet Boy" and it was announced at an assembly in front of the entire school. All of the other titles were flattering things like Smartest, Best Dressed, etc. It was embarrassing to be singled out like that.
I got that too. I had people calling me "the quiet one", "the girl that never talks", "mute", "freak", and "anti-social". I never liked doing school presentations too. People would tell to speak up too. High school was by far the worst experience of them all and of my entire life! People could hardly hear me, so I was often forced to repeat myself a lot. I felt so uncomfortable at my high school. I never really wanted to go there, let alone a public school. I kept feeling so out of place there like I knew I have no business being there. I regret hanging out with certain people, and I did it just out of fear of being by myself. It was a very traumatizing, dark experience. I felt so trapped there that it literally felt like a prison box there. Since then, it made me really hate being around people, socializing, and making small conversations.
I tried to escape from that school out of desperation, but the opportunities elsewhere were very limited and the doors kept on slamming shut. I wasn't able to find any good private school to be placed in, so I got stuck in being in a public school against my will. Since then, it made me really hate being around people, socializing, and making small conversations.
I wear headphones when I go grocery shopping to keep people from talking to me. Social gatherings are a nightmare. I can't initiate conversations and I feel like I never have anything interesting to say. It amazes me how some people can go on and on about the most trivial things. I'll admit I'm a bit jealous of people who are confident in social situations.
I do that whenever I go to the hair salon. Also, whenever I'm out in public standing or waiting for someone, I would often be on my phone so I wouldn't feel so awkward. I feel very uncomfortable at social gatherings too, that's why I don't care to go to any family gatherings or parties. I don't want people coming up to me and asking personal questions like "So did you already finish school?", "What was your major?", "Where do you work?", "What type of work do you do?", etc. I know how you feel about being jealous about people being confident in social situations. When I was in high school and college, I often wish it could be more like my elementary school years, or how I was back in elementary school. Nothing could ever top my elementary school years. sigh I miss those days so much.
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SelenaQP — 9 years ago(December 09, 2016 11:38 AM)
Ok I can see in school teachers making comments on your report card about how you are in class and involvement in the classroom, but in college.that is crazy what should they care if your quiet or not?
I know, right?! That's why I love elementary school the best. The teachers there were much more accepting.
I know what you mean Lucy it is sad that people can't except us quiet folks for us and they could be missing out on great friendship but nope they would rather be with loud talkative folks. To come to think of most of my friends in school was white, Asian, I had a few mixed or Hispanic friends, and I only had about 1 or 2 black best friends in high school I can get along mostly with whites, Asians (maybe Asians) since they aren't loud people. I like the idea of a pet as a friend you right Lucy they never let you downlol I really want to get me a puppy.
Yeah, I think it's best to be around people with similar personalities.It really frustrates the hell out of me that people think it's something that you would just grow out of. The problem is this world is run by too many extroverts, and not enough introverts to go around. It was already bad enough to get that in public, but it hurts even more that my OWN father had tried to change me as well. I think I was about 7 years old. We were at a relative's house, and dad and I were about to leave. I was too shy to say goodbye, but this only infuriated and embarrassed my dad even more. As we got out of there, he got in me tears. A sweet lady had come up to me and had asked me what was wrong. Dad had explained to her, and she said how there was nothing wrong with being shy. Second time, I was 11. My dad had tried to force me to call one of my uncles on the phone just to desperately get me out of my shyness. My uncle can tell that something was wrong with me because I was breaking down in my voice and crying. I was feeling very mortified and intimidated having my creepy father standing right behind me. He became even more frustrated with me and just yanked me by my shoulder. I hated him for that. So I don't really have any fond memories of my dad from my childhood. He was a total jerk to me throughout. My mom would NEVER do that sh!t to me! That's why I only check for her alone.
Growing up in school, I had mostly black friends, but I did had a few friends outside my race in Sunday school. I always wanted a cat since I was a little.
"Arnold, my love, why must I worship youand NEVER EVER tell?"
